Posted on January 31, 2017 at 7:30 AM
Save the Date cards are not a must but they have become the standard. If you are getting married during a holiday weekend or summer in a beach town the Save the Date card is an expected courtesy. Between busy schedules and travel arrangements sending a Save the Date will increase your guests' chances of attending your wedding. And that is the goal, right?
Send Save the Dates card, but not immediately upon your engagement. Yes, you are excited that you are getting married, you have your wedding date, venue and guest list, but double check your budget that you will be able to invite everyone on your list before your Save the Date cards go in the mail. Think carefully before sending out the Save the Dates because they go only to people that will actually be invited to the wedding. You cannot send a Save the Date to someone you might bump from the wedding later. The sooner the better for Save the Date cards to go out. At a minimum, 6-8 months prior if your wedding is local and 8-10 months if your wedding is a destination or holiday weekend.
The earlier you can notify your guest that they are going to be invited to a wedding the better. That gives them more opportunity to book the time off work, hotel reservation, get babysitters in place and so on. If you definitely know that you want a single guest to bring a plus one at this stage, then add this to the Save the Date envelope. When addressing the invitations if you are inviting a single man or woman and a guest then address it like this: Ms. Jane Doe and Guest. It helps them with their booking arrangements.
Even if you do not have a theme, color scheme or style yet do not worry the Save the Date can be anything that you like. The only caution is that the Save the Date cannot be more formal than the wedding invitation that will follow. Whatever says "us" will be the perfect Save the Date! The 4 W's (who, what, when and where) need to be on the Save the Date. And a possible 5th W is Wedding Website. Also, don't forget to include the "Invitation will follow" on the Save the Date. Optional information to be included: accommodations, transportation or any other practical information. A RSVP is not expected once the Save the Date is received. This correspondence gives your guests the opportunity to figure out what their RSVP when the formal invitation arrives.